Scientists latest research has shown the obvious- there is no real difference in happiness when comparing the lives of those who have kids and those who do not have kids. This is not shocking but still an interesting report I feel compelled to post because as the researchers state, as I and many others state, it all comes down to choice and personal preference.
When we talk about having children, is it not responsible and truly caring to consider what kind of environment the child would be brought into? Of course it is. Quality of life is vital, for both mother and the child.
I have two main arguments for being pro-choice and pro-abortion:
The first is by far the woman. It is the woman’s right to choose what she does with her body, and her life. The woman should always, always come first! It is just as horrible to force pregnancy as it is to force abortion.
My second reason for being so pro-abortion is a mother knows what is best. Bringing a a child into a world where it is not wanted, where it won’t be loved, where it will only suffer and struggle is not only unfair to the child but it is selfish on the part of the parent(s) to bring a child into an unfair environment.
No child should no abuse of any form, abandonment (including adoption), fear, poverty, etc. I know there are great parents living in poverty- that’s fine, but if they had wanted to have an abortion so they could wait and have children when they were more stable financially but didn’t have access to this care… that is wrong.
Every woman should have access to reproductive health care and especially safe abortion care. Having access to it doesn’t mean you religious zealots have to go have one- it means those of us who want one, should be able to rest assured that if the worst happens we can get one without hassle and harassment.
But I digress.
This article asks, do children ruin your life? A recent study says yes, though I think that is a bit extreme. Personally, I think the answer varies from person to person, situation to situation. The research study found it amplifies emotions, both good and bad. That should go without saying, but, to a person with mental illness or mental disturbances that could mean a great deal- and for someone like me it means the difference in life or death. I don’t need my emotions amplified – I need to heal mentally and emotionally from severe trauma before I am ready to endure the emotions pregnancy & child birth induce.
So it is circumstantial, in my opinion, and differs from person to person, as things usually do. This is why abortion should be accessible to all, it should not be debated. What is right for one person is not right for another, and to damn everyone for the sake of the people who don’t need help is wrong.
At the current time a child would ruin my life, it would probably end my life. In the future that will change, I believe. There are plenty of people around me who have children whom I adore, but could never parent. I’m not ready and I am mature enough to know that.
As the concluding facts find, there is no real difference in people with kids and people without kids. Not having kids does not make a person bad, a failure or any of the other insane lies out there. As noted below, it all comes down to preference and choice.
WHATEVER CHOICE IS RIGHT FOR YOU, IS WHAT IS BEST. And in my opinion that is the most crucial thing to remember.
Does having kids ruin your life? Ask a parent whose kid just did something adorable and you’ll get one answer; ask a parent up at four in the morning trying to sooth a baby that’s been screaming for hours and you’ll probably get another. Now scientists have weighed in, and their take on the question is more or less this: both of those answers are kind of exactly right.
(There’s always a degree of hedging when it comes to issues like this.)
In a study published this week in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, researchers tried to provide the definitive take on the issue of how parenthood affects life satisfaction, a subject that has produced conflicting results in other studies. Some say it’s the key to happiness while others say it’s pretty much the road to emotional ruin.
Angus Deaton, an economist at Princeton University in New Jersey, and his colleague Arthur Stone, a psychiatry researcher at Stony Brook University in New York, examined data from the Gallup-Healthways Well-being Index, a trove of information on nearly two million Americans, and other Gallup data from countries around the world.
At first glance, the data seem to suggest that having kids does significantly boost overall life satisfaction. When you look at Americans, those with kids are more likely to have more money and be healthier, among other attributes.
But when researchers controlled for those factors, they found there’s really no significant difference between those with kids and those without when it comes to life satisfaction.
“We find that in terms of life evaluation, people with kids and people without kids are not very different,” Stone told the L.A. Times.
The researchers said this is likely due to issues of choice.
“A lot of people start out thinking that having children must make people happy,” Stone said. “After all, the species needs it to continue. But there is no reason to think that people who decide to have children are any happier than people who decide not to have children. It’s like apples and oranges, and I wouldn’t think that people who like apples are any happier than people who like oranges.”
But researchers did find one notable difference – one that probably won’t come as much of a surprise to parents.
Having kids amplifies emotions, both good and bad, the researchers found. Overall life satisfaction may be the same for parents and people who do not have kids, “but people with kids have more joys and happiness as well as more negative emotions, like anger, worry and stress,” Stone said.
And that’s regardless of your wealth, health or marital status.
“No matter what the controls, children are always associated with both more positive and more negative emotions,” the researchers said in their paper.